When the goal of a relationship has moved from marriage to sex or from family to couple, the bar has been significantly lowered. Less is expected from each party in the relationship. To move from marriage to sex means commitment is not necessary. It is to move from a thing of permanence to a thing of passing and impermanence. It is no surprise that when the focus of a relationship is on an impermanent act that the marriage becomes an impermanent structure.
When the expectation for a spouse has gone from a person who is hard working, devoted, loving, caring, funny, disciplined, committed to the mere lowly expectation of a fleeting feeling of making one’s self happy, it is of no surprise that marriages have become fleeting – lasting almost as long as the feeling lasts.
When people spend more time planning the wedding than planning their marriage, it is no surprise when the marriage fails because no one bothered to plan for it.
When people are more concerned about the foundation and structure of their house than the foundation and structure of their marriage it is no surprise when the marriage collapses because no one bothered to inspect the structure.
When people spend more time investing and trying to obtain what it is they do not have than investing in what they already have it is no surprise that a marriage goes bankrupt because nothing was invested in it.
When equality in a relationship supersedes the collaborative nature and mission or goal of any relationship, it is no surprise that the mission fails because there can’t be two commanders on the same mission. The result is a divided house.